By Professor Jeff Willie | Contributor
Since the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, combined with the surge of racial tension affecting our country—often viewed as a worldwide pandemic in its own right—we have witnessed an increase in household stress. The abrupt transition to a routine filled with back-to-back virtual meetings has proven to be particularly challenging for many, especially those who were unaccustomed to such a work-from-home dynamic. This constant interaction through virtual means can elevate stress levels, and if not managed properly, lead to burnout. Alongside this, adults have had to juggle the responsibility of overseeing their children’s remote schooling, demanding significant time and effort during business hours, while also grappling with the complexities of racial issues in society.
This period has undoubtedly been stressful for many individuals, particularly children who are deprived of social interactions, events, proms, graduations, and are navigating challenging conversations about race with family and friends. Despite attempts to create a structured routine that offers predictability, flexibility, and connection to peers, stress responses are still prevalent among kids.
A DISC assessment serves as an effective tool for parents, enabling them to identify behavioral characteristics that indicate stress in their children and to discover strategies to alleviate it. It provides insights into their child’s strengths, styles of communication, learning preferences, and their reactions to conflict and stress. In my seminars titled “Family Stressed to Family Best,” I help parents identify specific behavior traits in their children: strengths, signs of stress, potential motivators, and ways to connect through affirming statements that acknowledge their children’s unique abilities.
If your child exhibits traits of being organized, innovative, dynamic, decisive, and goal-oriented, characterized as having “D” for DOMINANCE in the DISC model, they might show signs of stress through resistance, stubbornness, and demanding behavior. Though still expressing their innate strengths, this can manifest negatively. It’s vital for adults—whether as parents, teachers, or coaches—to positively affirm their talents. It’s crucial to approach these stressful behaviors with empathy and understanding without dismissing their feelings. Listening helps children articulate and understand the root of their emotions.
When your child displays “D” Dominance traits under stress, comments that honor their strengths might include, (1) “I appreciate your confidence,” (2) “I commend your determination,” (3) “I admire your commitment.”
Children displaying “I” INFLUENTIAL traits are generally outgoing, emotionally expressive, creative, and enthusiastic. They cherish social interactions and have a knack for motivating others. When stressed, they may become overly active or demonstrate exaggerated emotional responses. In response, ensure they have opportunities for social engagement, and uplift them with affirming remarks: (1) “I enjoy being around you,” (2) “I admire your friendliness,” (3) “Your enthusiasm is truly contagious.”
The “S” characteristics, or STEADINESS, highlight children who are reliable, easygoing, and good listeners but may struggle with motivation amid recent changes. Signs of stress might include avoidance of responsibilities or being overly submissive. To motivate such children, express your need for their support and bolster their confidence with statements like, (1) “I appreciate your caring nature,” (2) “I value how well you get along with others,” (3) “Your compassion is wonderful.”
Lastly, characteristics of “C,” or CAUTIOUS children, show them as methodical, detail-oriented, and conscientious. Under stress, they may become critical, withdraw socially, or display excessive caution. Engaging with them positively involves encouraging their analytical sides. Statements such as, (1) “I admire your desire to succeed,” (2) “I appreciate your organization skills,” (3) “I respect how well you listen and empathize with others,” can help bolster their self-esteem.
Navigating change is challenging, especially with the rapid adjustments spurred by COVID-19. With the loss of traditional learning, friendships, and cherished milestones such as prom and graduation, it’s important to acknowledge these hardships. Utilizing the DISC assessment can provide insights into alleviating stress and promoting understanding within your household.
Editor’s Note: Jeff Willie is the CEO/Founder of Jeff Willie Leadership. For access to the Student Success Report, which outlines your child’s strengths, personality traits, preferred environments, and more, visit his website at jeffwillie.com. To inquire about hosting a free “Family Stressed to Family Best” seminar for your community, reach out at jeff@jeffwillie.com.
ABOUT JEFF WILLIE:
Jeff Willie, CEO/Founder of Jeff Willie Leadership and Executive Director of The John Maxwell Team, is a motivational speaker and a qualified consultant in leadership development, personal growth, and professional skills enhancement. He hails from a large family in East Texas and has faced numerous challenges throughout his upbringing, leading to his commitment to personal excellence.
Mr. Willie served in the U.S. Air Force for 25 years and now holds several academic qualifications, including multiple degrees in education and organizational development. His current pursuits include a doctorate in Educational Leadership, with a focus on socioeconomic resilience in students of color. He is the proud father of two daughters who have excelled in their respective careers as a pediatrician and an attorney.
In March 2018, he received the VIP (Very Inspiring Parent) Award from Rodrigosa affiliates. To learn more, click here.
