By Amy Harberg, M.E.d., LPC, RPT, NCC | Contributor
We are experiencing extraordinary times; amidst a society that thrives on busyness, we are now compelled to pause and remain indoors.
While the current circumstances are undoubtedly unsettling and fraught with uncertainty, they also offer a remarkable chance for us as a community: the chance to deepen our connections with those we often overlook. As inherently social beings, we long for interpersonal relationships, yet our fast-paced lifestyles often prevent us from nurturing this fundamental need. In recent years, we have observed a troubling rise in anxiety and depression rates. With social, academic, and financial demands reaching unprecedented levels, many people lament their inability to slow down, under the misconception that doing so equates to a lack of productivity.
So, what does it mean to be instructed to decelerate, remain at home, and take a moment to breathe? Many parents are now working remotely, encountering their children in daylight hours for the first time. Kids are now participating in household chores that used to be performed while they were at school. Families find themselves spending quality time together, as children are unable to attend group gatherings, parties, or playdates, and parents have minimized their external commitments.
This transition is not without challenges. It will require time and effort. Numerous resources are available to guide us in managing the additional hours we now have and to address the anxiety many are expressing. Below are some suggestions I recommend considering:
- Establish a routine– Maintaining a structured schedule can help individuals cope with anxious feelings. Many are reporting a sense of lost control, which can lead to emotional distress. Prioritizing adequate sleep, nutrition, and physical activity is crucial. Aim to go to bed and wake up at consistent times each day. Encourage everyone in your household—and those you communicate with—to adopt similar habits. Try to accomplish at least one task each day, even something as simple as making your bed.
- Limit your news consumption– The sheer volume of information available at the moment can be overwhelming, making it difficult to resist the urge to obsess over the latest developments. Constantly consuming news keeps fears at the forefront of our minds. Set boundaries on how much time you and those you live with spend on news consumption. Focus on gathering information from trustworthy news outlets, then disconnect and give yourself a breather.
- Reach out to others– Humans are inherently social. The requirement for social distancing can be tough since physical touch is a fundamental human instinct. The means by which we connect may vary during this period. Regularly check in on those living with you as well as friends and family outside your household. Use phone calls, video chats, and online meetings to maintain your relationships. Avoid isolating yourself in your room or home office until meal time. Consider taking family walks outside while greeting neighbors from a safe distance.
- Embrace creativity during your free time– This newfound time allows for various activities. Consider this an opportunity to complete a project you’ve set aside. However, don’t pressure yourself to be overly productive—it’s perfectly fine to take a break. Engage in fun activities like playing board games, working on puzzles, having conversations, taking a stroll, enjoying a movie, or participating in an online yoga class. Allow yourself to have some leisure time.
- Practice patience– Cultivating patience is vital as we navigate through this process. In a world accustomed to instant gratification, adjusting will take time. Remember, we are all navigating this together. With patience, things will gradually improve. Schools and businesses are adapting by providing online resources, extending payment deadlines, and offering services to those in distress.
This crisis will eventually subside, even if it feels distant right now. In the interim, seize this opportunity to slow down, build connections, practice patience, and cherish your time together.
Editor’s Note: Amy Harberg is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist based in Dallas. You can contact her at Harbergcounseling.com.
